Is It Really A Big Deal If I Don’t Love Myself ?

This question crossed my mind regularly when I was lost and wasn’t sure if I would ever be happy again. At several points I thought to myself, “I’m never going to be happy with who I am as a person, is that really that big of a deal?”

Put bluntly; YES! Thinking that way and having that mindset is a very big deal. It’s a thought that crosses a lot of people’s minds. After experiencing this feeling personally, I don’t wish for anyone to feel like their happiness is something that isn’t crucially important.

When a person doesn’t feel any sort of love towards themselves, there is considerable damage being done mentally. Rhonda Byrne states it perfectly in her book The Secret (a book that scratches the surface as to how powerful you really are) when she explains, “When you feel bad about yourself it feels as though you are sucking the life out of you.” When you don’t love you, you’re leaving yourself void of any sort of happiness, not just for yourself but for others as well.

There may be a multitude of reasons as to why you’re not feeling the love you should be feeling for yourself. For me, I lacked self confidence in my body. Every time I looked in a mirror, I seemed to find something flawed with my reflection. For others, it may be something in the past, a battle with depression, or even the people that surround them saying that they aren’t beautiful, talented, and perfect.

So what’s the point? Why take the time and effort to focus on yourself? Why learn to love yourself? Why face those doubts head on and address them? Why try to find happiness within yourself and not within others? Because you’re way too important not to.

Before I proceed with my quotations from certain parts of the Bible I would like to address something that I feel may turn people away once they notice I bring up God. For me, believing in and practicing the concepts of Christianity is what sits right with my soul. However, I believe God in any religion is essentially centered around the same principles. God is love. No matter the religion anyone practices. God created the Universe out of love.

You need to love yourself in order to be happy. Again, The Secret concisely but confidently states, “The reason you have to love you is because it is impossible to feel good if you don’t love you.” You may be thinking in the back of your mind, “There’s nothing special about me for me to love.” You couldn’t be farther from the truth!

The same God that created the Universe and all its wonders also made you. That’s powerful. Psalm 139:14 puts it perfectly:

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works: that I know very well.”

You have been wonderfully created. The next time you see a beautiful sunset, or the stunning stars on a clear night, you can take peace in knowing that the same Creator also made you.

Another amazing thing about all this love that the Universe has for you: it will never stop! Under any circumstance, there will always be love for you. The Apostle Paul states in Romans 8:38-39:

“For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God.”

Nothing in all of creation can separate you from the love that God has for you, so why not take the time to love all that you are?

Learning to love yourself can be difficult. Especially if it is a brand new concept for you. It takes time out of your day. It takes consistently wanting to work on yourself. It takes self awareness in addressing your weaknesses and faults. It can open up a lot of wounds. Every single minute of the work is worth it.

Before you say there’s not enough time in the day to work on yourself consider this: we always make time in the day for the most important things in our life. What is more important to you than being happy and feeling all the love you’re meant to be experiencing about yourself?

All sections taken from the Bible are from the New Revised Standard Version of the text

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